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How a Shy Lesbian can Slay a Meetup
May 30, 2019
Hurry folks, as you may not have heard...Meetup is having a hard time getting folks to actually show up at events. That’s right. The online social site for meeting like-minded people has...
Your Intention for 2019?
December 4, 2018
This time last year, I remember vividly hearing folks refer to their intention for the new year. The word "intention" was rolling off tongues as the newest and hottest mantra. What was…
Another Gay Single Matched and Married!
November 17, 2017
Nothing beats a certified matchmaker’s voicemail, email, or live announcement to learn that a current or former client got engaged—or even married! That’s how this particular Matchmaker Mon…
Love Can Change YOUR World in a Moment
September 26, 2017
But what do I know? I’ve only been a proponent for more traditional introductions, courting, and dating, since, well since, forever. I’m a romantic at heart I guess? But I’m also pretty pra…
Gay Matchmaking: It’s Never too Late to Find Love
July 26, 2017
Too many times, in the last five years, I have talked to an eligible gay single, who told me, “I had just given up on finding someone. I assumed I would be alone forever.” In the past, they…
Find Your Mantra
May 22, 2017
What may your mantra be? Whether it is related to love, happiness, or career and success; sometimes just putting the energy out into the world can bring it back to you tenfold...
What You Seek
January 30, 2017
For those of us who are driven, waking up each day is the opportunity to go for what we truly want for ourselves. Whether it’s related to career, passion, our interests, for our...
Fall... In Love (again)
November 2, 2016
You are never too young or too old to fall for the one who deserves your heart. It doesn’t mean that we’re perfect. Or that they are. But we are all human. And deserving of love...
Own Who You Are Today
August 19, 2016
This evening, yet again, I wrap up an incoming business telephone call with a successful bachelor in his 50s. He’s driven, intelligent, caring, nice looking, and eligible. He’s...
Ten Things to Know When Hiring a Matchmaker
July 15, 2016
At the risk of revealing a matchmaker’s trade secrets, I can no longer stand by with you out there wondering how matchmaking can make a difference in your life. I live it. I do...
Love Is My Religion
June 16, 2016
A journalist once interviewed me for one hour to discuss my journey in now being known in my industry (of certified matchmakers) as the Gay Matchmaker...
Driving Away (Negative Head Talk)
April 26, 2016
Takes one to know one. You’ve heard it. So I’ll remind you that I was a matchmaking client. That’s right. I, too, wanted someone to please just find the good guys, and call me...
Say Goodbye to March Madness
April 6, 2016
If you have ever lived in West Texas (or Northwest Oklahoma), you know that spring is really known for one irritating and unavoidable thing. Wind. Spring unleashes direct pole...
Rebooting Your Love Life in 2016
March 9, 2016
As I sit to write this, I feel like an investigative reporter. With the afternoon shower, I’ve escaped to the Solarium on Brilliance of the Seas, Royal Caribbean’s “adult” pool...
The Man You Date. Wait, I Mean Marry… Continued.
February 5, 2016
To recap:There’s a difference between the man you “date” and the man you would marry. As I said, “Gentlemen, if it seems and feels and makes you wonder if it’s too good to be true? It...
The Man You Date. Wait, I Mean Marry.
January 27, 2016
Yes, gentlemen. There is often a difference. An important distinction. Not everything in life is black and white. In most things, there is some grey area. And I guess that could apply...
You Never Know Who You’ll Meet
December 14, 2015
It’s the Holiday Season. Parties, toasts, special programs, gatherings, and expectations to make it a memorable one. Especially in light of all going on in the world. We all seek...
7 Bad Topics on a First Date
June 17, 2015
You’ve done it. You’ve landed that cup of coffee or happy hour drink with a guy who just might be the one. Now you simply hope to find the right shirt, a great parking spot, and that he’s...
Go Ahead, Have a Spring Fling
May 18, 2015
I know, I know, one can get a little nauseous with the overly-romantic references to love. Whether it’s around Valentine’s, other milestone holidays, and even Spring, with love in the air...
How to Get a First Date in 3 Easy Steps
April 28, 2015
As the “Gay Matchmaker” my team and I work on coordinating the details of a first date on a daily basis. We are essentially “love agents” who represent our clients, and take the guesswork...
LOVE in the New Year
December 30, 2014
Another approaching New Year’s Eve, when we reflect on a year of good times, fun memories, and moments of “awwwww” in seeing friends’ FaceBook year in review. One ritual for some...
Love is Worth the Risk
August 28, 2014
In my late 30s, I didn’t surf, sail, climb mountains, or run with the bulls. I didn’t take risk. And then I married it. All because of my personal, offline and professional matchmaker...
Summer "Dating Coaching" Starts Here
June 26, 2014
With the first day of summer, we quickly kick in to make the most of the season for outdoors, travel, seeing old friends, vacation, and even maximizing a staycation. With so many...
Top 10 Takeaways From The International Matchmakers Conference 2014
May 15, 2014
Each year, I’m proud to share the Top 10 Takeaways from meeting in May in NYC with fellow certified international matchmakers, dating coaches, single professionals, and...
Hold on to Your Heart
April 28, 2014
You would NOT believe how many times in interviewing potential clients that I hear stories about opportunists. In reviewing exes, it usually starts with “well, after he lost his job”...
How to Marry a Millionaire
April 1, 2014
In taking inquiries from, and then interviewing, eligible gay men from Texas, the U.S. coast to coast, Norway, London, France, Switzerland, and Mexico, I have never once been asked to set...
The App—Breaking Up is Hard to Do
March 1, 2014
Last spring, a handsome, fit, accomplished, slightly older, but most eligible bachelor walked into our offices for his complimentary consultation. Before our two-hour private interview...
Five Steps to Finding Your Valentine
February 11, 2014
With a New Year, new resolutions, and the promise of spring around the corner, I urge open discussions and friendly suggestions for those looking for love. Start doing things...
Invest in Yourself for the New Year
December 31, 2013
Gentlemen, you do not need to be a millionaire or a celebrity to invest in yourself in 2014. Each week, as we interview eligible gay men seeking a long-term relationship, we seek to find...
Let's Get Dignified, Dignified
October 29, 2013
When it came to dating, I personally never spent one minute on the internet to find my special person. Instead, I would listen to single gal pals talk endlessly about how much time it...
Better. Off. Alone?
October 14, 2013
Do you think you’re better off alone? I’ll always remember in more than 3 months of one-on-one focus groups, a particular early 40-something saying, “I’m happy being single right now.”...
Rejection
October 1, 2013
While we love to hear our clients report, “He’s for ME!” You have to realize, that we also hear our share of “He’s a great guy, really great, but not the one for me.” And that’s okay too...
Must I?
September 13, 2013
I woke from a dream with the start of lyrics and tune to a song, on the morning of Sunday, June 9, 2013. Thank you Melatonin. I don’t sing, but I do blog. Enjoy...
What's Keeping You?
June 27, 2013
Having been a matchmaker nearly 24 years, I have talked with thousands of people who say they want a relationship. To take the plunge and allow us to actually help them, they must first...
Hold On Just One Minute
May 28, 2013
“I want to see where this is going…” I love to hear these words. Whether it’s from an acquaintance, friend, potential client, or one of our actual H4M members. As I attend reputable...
Top 10 Takeaways from the 2013 International Matchmakers Conference
May 1, 2013
Prospective matchmaking can happen anywhere at any time. From the flight from Austin to NYC, in which a potential client that I had interviewed did not initially see me, but admitted in...
Finding Love is Not a Game
April 26, 2013
Finding love is not a game. Not a game show even. And it's especially NOT a pageant! In the age of accidental overdosing on online dating, I strive to start a movement to revert back to...
Call Me... Not Maybe
February 8, 2013
“I just met you. This is crazy. But here’s my number. So call me…no maybes.” As a certified matchmaker, my eyes and ears are always open. Whether at gay centric charitable events...
I Do. I Did.
October 23, 2012
I do. I did. I did it! And I wouldn’t tell you that you can, unless I had. You have to believe. Opening your heart and mind to finding the right one for you is in large part…attitude...
Mystery Date—the Game Girls Played, But Boys Didn’t
October 3, 2012
So while some of you may only remember your sister(s) playing, wouldn’t you agree that most blind or set up dates are somewhat of a mystery date? I was a little too young to play...
Greetings Gentlemen
August 24, 2012
I dream of saying to future clients, "You have a gentleman caller." Not the kind from The Glass Menagerie, that makes you swoon, then breaks your heart. But the kind of gentleman that...
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