H4M Blog

Too many times, in the last five years, I have talked to an eligible gay single, who told me, “I had just given up on finding someone. I assumed I would be alone forever.” In the past, they…

What may your mantra be? Whether it is related to love, happiness, or career and success; sometimes just putting the energy out into the world can bring it back to you tenfold...

For those of us who are driven, waking up each day is the opportunity to go for what we truly want for ourselves. Whether it’s related to career, passion, our interests, for our...

You are never too young or too old to fall for the one who deserves your heart. It doesn’t mean that we’re perfect. Or that they are. But we are all human. And deserving of love...

This evening, yet again, I wrap up an incoming business telephone call with a successful bachelor in his 50s. He’s driven, intelligent, caring, nice looking, and eligible. He’s...

At the risk of revealing a matchmaker’s trade secrets, I can no longer stand by with you out there wondering how matchmaking can make a difference in your life. I live it. I do...

A journalist once interviewed me for one hour to discuss my journey in now being known in my industry (of certified matchmakers) as the Gay Matchmaker...

Takes one to know one. You’ve heard it. So I’ll remind you that I was a matchmaking client. That’s right. I, too, wanted someone to please just find the good guys, and call me...

If you have ever lived in West Texas (or Northwest Oklahoma), you know that spring is really known for one irritating and unavoidable thing. Wind. Spring unleashes direct pole...

As I sit to write this, I feel like an investigative reporter. With the afternoon shower, I’ve escaped to the Solarium on Brilliance of the Seas, Royal Caribbean’s “adult” pool...

To recap:There’s a difference between the man you “date” and the man you would marry. As I said, “Gentlemen, if it seems and feels and makes you wonder if it’s too good to be true? It...

Yes, gentlemen. There is often a difference. An important distinction. Not everything in life is black and white. In most things, there is some grey area. And I guess that could apply...

It’s the Holiday Season. Parties, toasts, special programs, gatherings, and expectations to make it a memorable one. Especially in light of all going on in the world. We all seek...

You’ve done it. You’ve landed that cup of coffee or happy hour drink with a guy who just might be the one. Now you simply hope to find the right shirt, a great parking spot, and that he’s...

I know, I know, one can get a little nauseous with the overly-romantic references to love. Whether it’s around Valentine’s, other milestone holidays, and even Spring, with love in the air...

As the “Gay Matchmaker” my team and I work on coordinating the details of a first date on a daily basis. We are essentially “love agents” who represent our clients, and take the guesswork...

Another approaching New Year’s Eve, when we reflect on a year of good times, fun memories, and moments of “awwwww” in seeing friends’ FaceBook year in review. One ritual for some...

In my late 30s, I didn’t surf, sail, climb mountains, or run with the bulls. I didn’t take risk. And then I married it. All because of my personal, offline and professional matchmaker...

With the first day of summer, we quickly kick in to make the most of the season for outdoors, travel, seeing old friends, vacation, and even maximizing a staycation. With so many...

Each year, I’m proud to share the Top 10 Takeaways from meeting in May in NYC with fellow certified international matchmakers, dating coaches, single professionals, and...

You would NOT believe how many times in interviewing potential clients that I hear stories about opportunists. In reviewing exes, it usually starts with “well, after he lost his job”...

In taking inquiries from, and then interviewing, eligible gay men from Texas, the U.S. coast to coast, Norway, London, France, Switzerland, and Mexico, I have never once been asked to set...

Last spring, a handsome, fit, accomplished, slightly older, but most eligible bachelor walked into our offices for his complimentary consultation. Before our two-hour private interview...

With a New Year, new resolutions, and the promise of spring around the corner, I urge open discussions and friendly suggestions for those looking for love. Start doing things...

Gentlemen, you do not need to be a millionaire or a celebrity to invest in yourself in 2014. Each week, as we interview eligible gay men seeking a long-term relationship, we seek to find...

When it came to dating, I personally never spent one minute on the internet to find my special person. Instead, I would listen to single gal pals talk endlessly about how much time it...

Do you think you’re better off alone? I’ll always remember in more than 3 months of one-on-one focus groups, a particular early 40-something saying, “I’m happy being single right now.”...

While we love to hear our clients report, “He’s for ME!” You have to realize, that we also hear our share of “He’s a great guy, really great, but not the one for me.” And that’s okay too...

I woke from a dream with the start of lyrics and tune to a song, on the morning of Sunday, June 9, 2013. Thank you Melatonin. I don’t sing, but I do blog. Enjoy...

Having been a matchmaker nearly 24 years, I have talked with thousands of people who say they want a relationship. To take the plunge and allow us to actually help them, they must first...

“I want to see where this is going…” I love to hear these words. Whether it’s from an acquaintance, friend, potential client, or one of our actual H4M members. As I attend reputable...

Prospective matchmaking can happen anywhere at any time. From the flight from Austin to NYC, in which a potential client that I had interviewed did not initially see me, but admitted in...

Finding love is not a game. Not a game show even. And it's especially NOT a pageant! In the age of accidental overdosing on online dating, I strive to start a movement to revert back to...

“I just met you. This is crazy. But here’s my number. So call me…no maybes.” As a certified matchmaker, my eyes and ears are always open. Whether at gay centric charitable events...

I do. I did. I did it! And I wouldn’t tell you that you can, unless I had. You have to believe. Opening your heart and mind to finding the right one for you is in large part…attitude...

So while some of you may only remember your sister(s) playing, wouldn’t you agree that most blind or set up dates are somewhat of a mystery date? I was a little too young to play...

I dream of saying to future clients, "You have a gentleman caller." Not the kind from The Glass Menagerie, that makes you swoon, then breaks your heart. But the kind of gentleman that...