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Match Me With a Millionaire

by Tammy Shaklee, Relationship Expert and H4M FounderApril 4, 2023

Said no one, absolutely no one, after 10 years of interviewing thousands of eligible LGBTQ singles. Most are in the US, but I have also had the privilege of interviewing singles in 23 countries, with our youngest matchmaking clients aged 23 and our most senior being 82.

Years ago, I wrote the first version of this occasional blog, and our team still tells me today that it is one of the most popular pieces for those of you visiting the H4M website. I still wonder why that is. When I thoroughly discuss the key qualities and values singles are seeking in a compatible partner during daily complimentary Zoom interviews, the "M" word has never been uttered or even whispered. Instead, the many variations of "financially responsible" or "financially stable" are one of the most popular characteristics listed.

With that, I am often asked as a certified matchmaker, “What is the one thing folks are looking for in a partner?” Easy! Year after year, the No. 1 answer to that question remains the same. And based on the single's inflection and tone, I often type the word emphasized in all caps. The one word?


It's that simple. Think of it this way. Through the proprietary H4M interview process, I am essentially gathering data every day. I never ask singles who contact us to complete any self-profile descriptors.

As a former broadcast journalist, I personally interview every person I introduce instead. And unlike most tech companies who pose as matchmakers or large-scale franchise-owned or corporate-owned businesses, I do not interview you to "qualify" you and see if you are a potential paying client. Instead, I interview you to see if I "qualify" to be your personal certified matchmaker. I want to feel like I could be successful in introducing you to compatible matches.

The final kicker? I do not ask any gay man or lesbian woman, or any LGBTQ single, "How much money do you make, or how much are you worth?" Never.

Remember, approximately 16 years ago, I WAS a matchmaking client. I was not searching for my special someone based on income or net worth. I was seeking compatibility with a person who could be the right person for me in a long-term sustainable relationship.

As you open yourself up to the possibility of a new relationship, I encourage you to focus on what matters most—not money or material things—but on being the type of person who others can depend on to be KIND. We're here to help you find compatibility through qualities that create lasting connections.

For more information on traditional introductions, courting, and dating for today’s modern gay single, contact H4M—the offline, personal matchmaking service designed exclusively for those seeking a long-term relationship. You can also follow our Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter for inspiration on finding love. #loveislove
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