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Top 10 Takeaways From The International Matchmakers Conference 2014

Each year, I’m proud to share the Top 10 Takeaways from meeting in May in NYC with fellow certified international matchmakers, dating coaches, single professionals, and relationship experts. We are in the love industry, and help our clients open their hearts and minds to finding their special someone. H4M is proud to have been the ONLY matchmaking company designed exclusively for matching gay men.  With that comes responsibility – to learn, to share, to coach and to encourage.  From the conference’s impressive host of speakers, I bring to gay men everywhere, my notes to share:

  1. Gay Single Men often sabotage themselves with unrealistic expectations and requirements.

  2. Gays are just as romantic as heterosexuals.

  3. Treat your partner as THEY want to be treated (not how you want to be treated).

  4.  It takes 18 months to truly get to know someone – relationships are ongoing.

  5. Monogamy does not mean fidelity.

  6. Sex drive, romantic attraction, and attachment are three chemistry-defined differences.

  7. When you fall in love, everything is sexually attractive. (But falling in love takes time.)

  8. Anti-depressant drugs jeopardize dopamine levels, making it hard to fall in love.

  9.  Most men are not ready for matchmaking until they have had some coaching.

  10. Gay Single Men have wants AND needs when it comes to dating, which is what a singles professional provides, helping those frustrated that they are still single.

For more information on traditional introductions, courting, and dating for today’s modern gay single, contact H4M—the offline, personal matchmaking service designed exclusively for those seeking a long-term relationship. You can also follow our Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter for inspiration on finding love. #loveislove

Philosophy #1

What you seek is seeking you.

- Jalaluddin Rumi