Mystery Date—the Game Girls Played, But Boys Didn’tby Tammy Shaklee, Relationship Expert and H4M FounderOct 3, 2012
So while some of you may only remember your sister(s) playing, wouldn’t you agree that most blind or set up dates are somewhat of a mystery date?
I was a little too young to play this game, but I find it sad the “dream versus dud” risk each player was taking. With the right attitude in any dating game, each of us can find the good in every date. If nothing else, a less than perfect date is still good dating practice, so that you’ll be ready and recognize a dream when you meet him. There’s someone for everyone. Just keep playing the game until you are a winner!
My favorite board game belonged to older stepsisters. The Game of Life. And they were too kind to play it for hours and hours on my visits. But in that little plastic car, I remember with each peg driver, I would dream of my mystery date turned fabulous husband.
What today’s modern offline matchmaking teaches us is that what’s one guy’s dud could be another guy’s dream. Because offline matchmaking isn’t about the exaggerated profile online, or the photo from 10 years ago. It’s about who you are right now, the years and experiences that got you to this place. This place of me. Proud to be whom and what I am, what I was meant to be, and looking to share it with someone who appreciates me just as I am.
When it comes to dating, I would not ask or advise you to do something I haven’t done. I believed in offline dating, and you can too. In more than three months’ worth of confidential focus group interviews of fabulous gay professional men, I asked in great detail what it’s like to date in Austin. What about blind dates? Friends that set them up? How does it work, how do you wish it worked, and how would you help design an offline matchmaking service for someone just like you?
I learned of the varied outcomes of mystery dates. But more importantly, I heard heartwarming stories of their personal “game of life.” I heard of long-term relationships that ended, and the fear of getting back out there. I was told that at a certain age, and professional level, men quit dating and somewhat gave up, instead of getting back into the dating game.
As you have learned about me, I am proud to be a success story of a personal matchmaking service. What you may not know, is that I opened the dating door to 29 “less than perfect dreams” (not duds) until I found my absolute dream. That’s right. My dream was my 30th date! Imagine if I had quit opening the door out of disbelief. I wouldn’t be writing this blog, owning this business, or going to work for fabulous men like you.
Essentially, I played Mystery Date and The Game of Life for a long time. And won. Now I’m ready to coach you, introduce you, and help you find the long-term happiness that I found. So let’s get started!