Let's Get Dignified, Dignifiedby Tammy Shaklee, Relationship Expert and H4M FounderOct 29, 2013
When it came to dating, I personally never spent one minute on the internet to find my special person. Instead, I would listen to single gal pals talk endlessly about how much time it required. As a busy executive, I did welcome others to set me up on blind dates, but they didn’t. So I hired an offline matchmaking service. And that is how this all began.
In today’s technology driven world, it’s the latest app that has men finding action, but often leaving them sad and alone and still wanting a real relationship. I hear repeatedly how the app often hurts the heart, but can also kill hope.
Can one separate the occasional hook up – with – the search for true love? You might be surprised to learn not only of my opinion, but of my advice to my clients and potential clients. Almost daily, I share the words, “We don’t judge based on immediate gratification. We simply ask that you please be healthy, happy, and safe. I want you to be at your best when I hopefully introduce you to the perfect man for you.”
In the last couple of years, I often feel that I am riding the wave of true acceptance, understanding, and support of the LGBT community. I’m in awe of the younger generation growing up with these qualities and values instilled in them since birth. I believe my generation feels like we’ve come so far, especially in recalling the too common prejudice and naïve ignorance of the older generations. Progress. It warms my heart to feel progress, daily, weekly.
Researching and designing a matchmaking company exclusively for gay men seeking a long-term relationship I feel is progressive, and my personal part of the movement. My goal has always been a trend toward more traditional introductions, courting, and dating for gay men seeking a long-term relationship. And in the research phase, I kept returning to the words “dignified, private, quality, sophisticated.” I deserved that back then in my search for the man who now is my husband. And you do too. It’s okay to get physical. But it’s okay to also want emotional. A real relationship. He’s For Me is the opposite of the app. But it’s not stepping back in time, it’s progressive. It’s the future. And I hope it’s in yours to find yours.