Hold On Just One Minuteby Tammy Shaklee, Relationship Expert and H4M FounderMay 28, 2013
“I want to see where this is going…”
I love to hear these words. Whether it’s from an acquaintance, friend, potential client, or one of our actual H4M members. As I attend reputable gay-centric events all over the Austin area weekly, whether networking events, social hours, or nonprofit fundraisers, I’m searching for promising men that are seeking a long-term relationship, and are open to someday saying these words. Out loud.
In the last year, I have made some amazing new friends, thanks to researching, designing, and launching matchmaking for gay men. If I haven’t seen you in a while, my natural first question is, “So, are you seeing anyone right now? Have you met anyone, since I talked to you last?” When there’s an affirmative, I can’t wait to learn how you met, how long you’ve been seeing each other, and why he’s so fabulous. I am genuinely happy and excited for you. Matchmakers believe that nothing trumps finding love.
But the ultimate declaration of hope in a relationship comes when it’s during feedback with one of our clients after their 2nd date. It’s because we at H4M manage not only the initial introduction first date, but we also manage the second dinner date if you both mutually agree to one.
Today, I had two of the most impressive men, both clients, say to me in their own way, “I want to see where this is going.” Their feedback from their second date was all about admiration of each other’s past, present, and future. Of their commonalities in humor, interests, love of life, and compatibility with ease in being with each other and getting to know each other better. Each had such a great attitude in hiring a personal matchmaker for quality introductions. Each had an open mind and an open heart with their match.
The most surprising time I heard these eight words? With the complimentary interview, I witnessed a man come into the H4M office with what clearly appeared to be a closed mind and heart, but leave with hope and optimism. We were the first he had ever openly talked to about truly wanting a life partner. He was departing the next day for a family visit far away from Texas. In returning home, a dear friend of his had another man give him the favor of a free ride home from the airport. That organic introduction shockingly led to love. And I take a little credit for that. Not because it was my actual match for him, but I do believe it was our process that helped him open his eyes to the potential for finding a real partner.
As I coach some of our H4M members, I believe that “90% of finding love is attitude.” So, I want to see where YOU are going. If you’re not on the right path, or making the right choices to find YOUR man, please know we’re simply a phone call away. And I can’t wait to put your future H4M membership on hold…while I secretly do the Happy Dance at work! (**If you don’t know what that’s like, I’m sorry to have to share an instructional video – enjoy!)