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Find Your Mantra

by Tammy Shaklee, Relationship Expert and H4M FounderMay 22, 2017
Quit Your Job, Buy A Ticket, Get A Tan, Fall In Love, Never Come Back – Island Company

One benefit of getting out of town and taking a little trip, is meeting new and interesting people. We were recently honored to meet the man who owns an island clothing company. Not only does he define the company’s mantra, he lives it. From his fitness on the beach in the morning, to his crisp white linen shirt at breakfast, to his signature breezy cocktail ordered at happy hour. He greets everyone by name, shakes hands, wears the biggest smile, exudes a warm and happy disposition, and even handles stress with a positive attitude. He’s more than an exec; he’s a brand -- a lifestyle.

For nearly five years, I hope I’ve personified the same.

"Lead With Love" – Tammy Shaklee

I believe in love. I am in love. I cherish love. And I hope each one of you reading this finds it in your own way. It doesn’t always look the same for all people. You’ve often heard me say, “You deserve your person, whatever that looks like to you.”

In these same travels, we also met two people who claim to be long-time, long-distance best friends. More traveling companions really. After two evenings as couples hanging out, each asked me to help find them a matchmaker, based on their home city. But I couldn’t help but to point out the obvious, “Maybe you are each other’s person.” They said they didn’t want to impact the clearly comfortable friendship, blah, blah, blah, but I encouraged them to think about their unique arrangement, and be thankful for it.

Each of us is responsible for our actions. And we make decisions daily that impact what our current life looks and feels like. Yesterday, my latest Skype interview with a successful bachelor, was a poignant reminder of that. He had just turned 50, and after much soul-searching, said to his closest friends and colleagues, “What am I doing? I work constantly, living on an airplane, and for what? To retire in 10 years, in a huge home….by myself?” He boldly chose to take a different position within the company, then called H4M. In his case, he really doesn’t date, go to the bars, or online. But he’s wicked smart, handsome, fit, classy, and worldly. He has great long-time friends and colleagues, who are supportive.

Now in about two weeks, he’s going to sit down at a table for drinks and appetizers with a quality bachelor who has also been vetted by his certified matchmakers. A man who is compatible when it comes to what each is seeking.

It took 50 years, but our newest matchmaking client finally defined his mantra and set out to live it. And we are blessed to be a part of it.

What may your mantra be? Whether it is related to love, happiness, or career and success; sometimes just putting the energy out into the world can bring it back to you tenfold. And what better day to start than today?

For more information on traditional introductions, courting, and dating for today’s modern gay single, contact H4M—the offline, personal matchmaking service designed exclusively for those seeking a long-term relationship. You can also follow our Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter for inspiration on finding love. #loveislove
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