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Call Me... Not Maybe

“I just met you. This is crazy. But here’s my number. So call me…..no maybes.”

As a certified matchmaker, my eyes and ears are always open.  Whether at gay centric charitable events, cocktail parties, live music venues, an evening out with friends, in some of the city’s finest dining establishments, and yes, sometimes even at faith based services.

My full-time, nearly around the clock job is to find potential dates for my H4M Members, and VIP Clients.

And while I have a love/hate relationship with the can’t-shake-it-song playing in my head from Carly’s most-viral song, “Call Me Maybe,” I can’t help but feel at times that I’m living the lyrics.  Recently, in the Domain, I stopped in to drop off long-time precious earrings for a little maintenance. The handsome clerk was extremely courteous, nicely dressed, quite eloquent, and had the most professional and mature nature in caring for my every need.  I was reminded why we paid so much for the earrings all those years ago.  As he completed my paperwork to register my bobbles, I handed him my H4M business card to share the correct spelling of my name and number.  He kindly handed me back the card, with his appreciation for making this small task a little easier.

I then kindly pushed the card back across the beautifully lit, sparkling, glass display counter.

“Really, I’d like for you to have my card.”

He smiled politely, with a slight brow raise of confusion, as he hadn’t read more than the name and number.  I turned to leave with a little chuckle.  Our signature H4M referral cards simply read, “Seeking a long-term relationship?”  We offer nothing more than the website and toll-free number.  The rest is up to you.

And now I wait.  Is he indeed currently not coupled?  Is he perhaps looking for a long-term relationship?  Would he be a potential introduction for one of my members?  In my short time with him, I could tell he is someone I would enjoy having lunch with.  But would my clients?  Might he even know someone that needs to call me?

Since launching the business, I enjoy inquiries from, calls with, and set up interviews with some of city’s finest doctors, lawyers, realtors, tech-industry professionals, engineers, and more.  They take the time, and have the interest to focus on their personal life.  They are ready to make an investment in their personal future.  They are interested to learn that I have the time go in search of quality introductions, to attend the events, do the networking, and make the connections that they may be too busy to prioritize.

Making the inquiry is the first step. No maybes.

For more information on traditional introductions, courting, and dating for today’s modern gay single, contact H4M—the offline, personal matchmaking service designed exclusively for those seeking a long-term relationship. You can also follow our Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter for inspiration on finding love. #loveislove

Philosophy #2

You deserve your person, whatever that looks like to you.

- Tammy Shaklee